Recently I wrote 5 Morning Habits to Change Your Life. You can read it here.
I wanted to write 5 Ways to Avoid Holiday Anxiety and then realized I was out of my league. While shopping at Walmart early in the morning to avoid a crowd I still found myself unable to breathe and holding onto the cart as if it was a sinking ship.
I had thrown too many things into the cart. Despite all my mental preparation the visual image of the cart full of stuff triggered my fears of overspending. The rational side of my brain could have added up the cost of the items in the cart, returned things to shelves, and made sensible decisions based on the amount of money in my bank account. But that’s not what happened. Instead I purchased whatever was in the cart to get out of the store as fast as possible. Then I went home to continue my anxious worry about the consequences of spending too much money…
The holidays trigger stress for almost everyone I know. Whatever your holiday challenge let’s agree to be nice to ourselves. Implicit in anxiety is a personal rebuke. Let’s forgive ourselves for spending too much money, not having enough money, being short on time, dreading family gatherings with that loud mouthed relative… this list could go on and on… so insert here your flavor of holiday stress du jour.
If we are kind to ourselves then we will have more of ourselves to give this holiday season. More important than any of the stuff in our shopping carts, our presence accompanied with benevolent attitudes and actions can create meaningful memories.